Sunday, October 10, 2010

Assuming Good Intent

I have been doing a lot of soul searching of late. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume that their intentions are good. I don't think that very many people are truly evil, or to quote myself, "No one wakes up in the morning and says "You know what I am gonna do today? Suck!" "

My problem comes when I have come to that point where someone has hurt me to a large degree, or taken advantage one too many times. I am realizing that I have a very difficult time returning to that place of assuming good intent. I assume that if someone has hurt me, and I have chosen to let it affect me, their intentions can never be good again. I look for reasons that the individual could be trying to hurt me again. This is an unfair assessment of people, and I realize it is a hypocritical position for me to take because I believe so strongly that people really do intend to do good in general. I also realize that I have a difficult time trusting people, and when I refuse to allow people to have good intentions toward me, I am a part of the problem, and not a part of the solution. As long as I have this attitude, I will not be able to trust people.


Jen said...

Boooo to people that suck. You don't suck. You are great. And, to comment back to you on what you wrote on my blog, I am glad to know that you didn't do tummy time because your children have turned out to be brilliant, intelligent, self-thinking, creative, imaginative little people. I blame all of that on your fantastic mothering :)
Anyways,that's off topic.
Boooo to people that suck.